parenting, Postpartum Depression, pregnancy, Uncategorized

Surviving Postpartum Depression: You are not alone

This week ABC television show: Black-ish , aired the episode ‘Mother Nature’. This episode captured the very real phenomenon of Postpartum Depression (PPD).

While watching this episode, I begin to reflect on the miracle of pregnancy and the journey of pregnancy that is not always so pretty:  Postpartum Depression.

Postpartum Depression is real and it is not your fault. The American College of Obstetrics and Gynecologist states 1 out of 7 women experience Postpartum Depression. (ACOG, 2017).  Postpartum Depression can cause you to feel sad, overwhelmed, confused, angry, like a bad mom, alone and scared.

You are not alone.

 

Being a mom to a newborn can be challenging, adding Postpartum depression can cause you to be completely overwhelmed.

Postpartum Depression can occur up to 1 year after having a baby, but it usually starts about 1-3 weeks after having your baby.

You may find yourself with intense feelings of being sad, anxious, not bonding with your baby and just “can’t get it right”.

Remember, this is not your fault.

Usually Postpartum Depression occurs because of :

  • Changes in hormone levels.
  • History of depression you have an increased risk for developing postpartum depression.
  • Adjusting to taking care of a newborn-even though you love and planned for this little one and enjoyed pregnancy.
  • Sleep Deprivation is also a contributes to Postpartum Depression
  • Not having a support system

Moms, sometimes, you may not even realize you have Postpartum Depression as you try to make it day by day with your new baby. If you think you may have PPD or if your partner /family member or friend think you have PPD, you can see your Ob/Gyn- even if it is not time for your Postpartum Checkup.

I have seen women come into the clinic, crying and not realizing it. I have heard women being counseled by their doctor and expressing they are scared of being judged.

Mom’s, I want you to know you are not alone, and this is not your fault. There is no shame associated with having PPD and needing help.

  • Listen to your family if they suggest you may have PPD
  • Talk with your doctor-they want to help you.
  • Do not expect a quick fix. Recovering from PPD may take a while.
  • You do not have to do this alone.

The journey through Postpartum Depression is not an easy one to travel. It is a journey that many have traveled before you , after you and even with you now.

I  also  want you to have hope; while the road may be dark; there will be sunshine again.

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Always Healthy Moms / Healthy Baby

By:  Mary Echols,RN ,BSN,MSN

Wife/Mother/Nurse/Champion of All Pregnant Women

Contact Mary @ theamazingadventuresofpregnancy@yahoo.com

 

Reference: https://www.acog.org/Patients/FAQs/Postpartum-Depression

The Americans College of Obstetrics and Gynecology,2017.Depression and Postpartum Depression: Resource Overview

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Picture source: pixaby.com

 

 

pregnancy, Uncategorized

“C-Section or Not; You are a Mother”

 

She Cried Today.

She cried because her pregnancy journey will end with a Caesarean section (C-section).

She cried because pregnancy to her that means she didn’t earn her baby

She cried because she felt she wasn’t a ‘real’ mother/woman.

She cried because she will not be able to labor her baby into the world.

She cried because she was embarrassed to tell her husband.

She cried because to her – she has failed.

My heart hurt for this 1st time mother.  This mother who has planned from the 1st positive pregnancy test for this baby, prayed for this baby, dreamed about her pregnancy and mentally prepared for the birth of her baby.

My heart hurt because she could not see there is more than one road to a healthy baby.

She Cried Today

I spent time with her. I talked with her. I wanted my words to acknowledge her feeling and empower her to own her birth story.

I wanted  her to know :

She is a Mother

She is a Woman

She has not failed but is winning and has won.

She has carried this child for almost 40 weeks; who she loves without ever meeting. She has nurtured this child in utero doing everything right to set the stage to welcome her little one into the world.  Her desire is to have the perfect pregnancy journey, which to her is to have a vaginal delivery.

She Cried Today

She left her office visit with a look of resignation and anxiousness in her eyes.

I will see her once more before her scheduled C-section. I will speak with her, comfort her, encourage her to express her feelings, hopes, and thoughts.

In my mind and heart:

My hope , my prayer is that she will always know:

The journey of pregnancy and parenting may not always be linear. That she will learn to expect the unexpected, that plans change.

Regardless of how her birth story unfolds ; that she will remember:

She is a Mother

She is a Woman

She is Strong

Her name is Mama

Her Baby = Love

Healthy Mom/Healthy Baby

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Mary Echols, RN , BSN, MSN

Wife/Mother/ Registered Nurse/ “Champion of All Pregnant Women”

Contact Mary @ theadventuresofpregnancy@yahoo.com

 

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