domestic violence, pregnancy, Uncategorized

Are you Safe?

One moment to change a person’s destiny, one second to alter their future, one question to save their life.

Are you Safe? Is that question.

Time and Time again, I have seen women who are clothed in masks of smiles, masks who voices say “I’m ok, I’m fine”, masks who appear happy and excited. However, behind these masks are hopelessness, sadness, confusion, hurt, fear and often a small glimmer of hope.

I have seen far too women who are in domestic violent relationships that present to their healthcare provider. Often, these women present for routine visits, no bruises are noted, conversations are flowing, all seems well. Their masks are firmly in place; painted with a smile.

Then a question is asked, the one question that help remove these masks:

Are you Safe?

I have seen tears begin to flow as masks are removed when women are asked:

Are you Safe?

I have had women express gratitude saying no one has ever asked “If I was Safe before”. Women have said: “many people have asked me if I need anything? Am I ok, but few have asked:

“Am I Safe?”

I encourage all women on their life journey, all pregnant women on their pregnancy journey to discuss all concerns and situations with their healthcare providers; no matter what the situation may be. As healthcare providers, we are there to help, to listen and to assist; we enjoy serving our patients.

Often, the doctor’s office may be the only chance to reach and assist a person. Taking the time in that one second to ask the question

Are you Safe?

 A life saver is thrown.

As the healthcare provider; you may not be able to erase the pain the patient is in, or remove her from her current situation, but in that moment:

Resources can be given, escape plans can be made, help is there, kindness can be offered,

Lives can be saved.

Are you Safe?

Remember to Always Ask the Question

As Always

Healthy Mom/Healthy Baby

If you or someone you love needs help, don’t be afraid to Call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233

 

Mary E., RN,BSN, MSN

Wife/Mother/Nurse/Champion of All Pregnant Women

contact: theamazingadventuresopregnancy@yahoo.com

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