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The Art of Letting Go

So it happened.
I learned to let go.
My baby girl; my 1 and only started Kindergarten. IMG_3923
This was a major stepping stone for her and our family. Until Kindergarten, she had always been in the care of us her parents or grandparents. However, the time had come to learn The Art of Letting Go.
What?! She’s a baby! How could I let her go-send her away to strangers for hours without me there-watching? How could I trust she would be cared for? Yes, I’ll admit it took researching schools, touring schools, much discussions and prayer. However, when we walked into one particular school- we were home. The setting, the academics, the organization , the cleanliness, the current parents praises of the school , the teachers were engaged, the administration was helpful and the uniforms were cute 😉 We had found the school for our daughter.
I loved the school helped the Kindergarten class  become comfortable with going to school . Starting in the summer the school hosted:  Kindergarten play dates,  Popsicles with the Principal , Meet and Greet the teacher and become use to the classroom prior to the first day.

Postcard From the teacher welcoming Baby Girl to her class

The Official 1st Day of Kindergarten,8/28/2017. It was time, time to practice The Art of Letting Go. Putting Faith into action and trusting the process. After all-letting go is trusting,right? I had to activate my faith and trust placing my daughter with educators to direct, care and teach. I had to trust we have raised her to this point to be able to function away from us. To know how to navigate her world without us being physically there. To know herself. This is what we want.  Sounds simple, but is it hard? Yes! and again Yes!  However, is it right?  Yes! and again Yes!


Baby Girl’s 1st day went surprisingly well.  Her dad, Steve and I walked her to the classroom, helped her find her table, put away her supplies.

Then she asked…..

“Are you leaving?” What? Maybe I did not hear her. I bent down, my ear close to her mouth to listen closely.  “You guys can leave now”. Yep, I heard right. After prayers, pictures, hugs and kisses; we left. No tears from me or her. Steve had a few tears; or as he says ” my allergies are flaring”.

As we left her with a quick glance back; it was definitely a surreal moment for sure-yet one I felt at peace with. (Full disclosure, yes I checked my cell phone every 2 minutes to make sure I did not miss a call from the school and would not let Steve leave to far from the school, just in case I had to make it back quickly).

I know this is the beginning as I let go of her hand and let her walk into independence. Grade School will fly by and all I will have are memories of my baby girl with the pigtails and missing teeth saying ” I love you to the Moon and Back”. IMG_3918
8/28/2017 will forever be ingrained in my mind and heart. A moment I begin the Art of Letting Go. 

As I reflect on this week- which went well; I thought about parenting. As parents our goals should always include letting go. While its true- I’m the mom who has a small part that wants to attach myself to baby girl and never let go. In reality, in my heart I want Baby Girl to discover who God has designed her to be, to witness her walk into the promise He has ordained for her.

Kindergarten is the 1st stepping stone for Baby Girl; one that will be a distant memory for her one day. However, I want this first stepping stone to lay a foundation for the years to come.

I want to let go in Faith and Trust she will

  • Always Know Who She Is
  • Always Follow God’s Will
  • Be Kind
  • Know When to Speak and When to Listen
  • And Always know even while I’m letting go in my heart I’m holding on – Always



By: Mary Echols, RN , BSN, MSN

Wife/Mother/Registered Nurse

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13 thoughts on “The Art of Letting Go”

  1. Wow Mary, I’m incredibly impressed and comforted by your words. Your “art of letting go” is so spot on with my heart and feelings but I’ve never been great at putting my thoughts/feelings onto paper. As a single mother (who does not share custody…therefore I have my daughter 100% of the time) letting go is very difficult for me. I often fear my extreme “love” will hinder her growth, her independence and her confidence. Even though she’s only entering 4th grade and is quite social and confident I already fear the day she leaves for college and/or moves out-leaving me….alone. Thank you for reminding me that as a parent one of my goals should always include letting go! Your baby girl is very fortunate to have such amazing, loving, insightful, Godly parents.

    1. Charlotte , you expressed yourself beautifully. Thank you for stopping by. I think you/we as parents are doing a great job loving our child/children fiercely. What a foundation we give them that they are loved unconditionally and we support them no matter what. Charlotte, I think your little girl is blessed to have an awesome mother who gives all, love fiercely , protects strongly and will be able to let her walk in her destiny! ❤️


    1. @akyn30- I was the same way. This is my baby! However, the school we choose left me with such peace, I was comfortable leaving her ( even saying that still causes a slight twitch 😊). I felt she was going to be safe and cared for ; which helps. Now she loves her teacher and ‘jobs’ at school. Enjoy time with your toddler-it flies by. Thanks for stopping by and commenting

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  2. I have one more to go to preschool and I am nervous as he is my last baby. I wasn’t stressed at all about my daughtee heading to school but my my son… can’t he stay little forever?

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